Stop Waiting in Your Singleness for a Beautiful Life

Stop waiting in your singleness for a beautiful because you aren’t sitting on the bench, you’re already on the field playing the game of life.

Dear Spirited Earthling,

Human beings are social animals, and companionship is a fundamental human need. Our evolutionary history has shaped us to seek out social connections and form pair bonds. Similarly, loneliness is a common fear, and some may associate being single with loneliness. They might worry about not having someone to share their life with, celebrate successes, or provide companionship during challenging times. Therefore, wanting to share your life with a partner is normal. The struggle comes in when finding a partner is your primary focus and you put your life on hold until you have one.

To add to this, society often places a significant emphasis on romantic relationships and marriage as a marker of success and happiness. From a young age, many people are exposed to fairy tales, movies, and stories that portray finding a romantic partner as the ultimate goal.

Tim and Demi Tebow sat down for an interview in 2021 and Tim spoke about ‘waiting in your singleness’. Tim and Demi were both successful individuals before marrying; he was a professional athlete, and she is a former Miss Universe. This is paraphrasing what Tim said (you can find clips of his speech online) and being an athlete, he uses a sports game as his analogy.

Stop Waiting in Your Singleness for a Beautiful Life

Waiting for that one person to enter your life is one thing. Waiting to play the game of life is something else. When you wait in your singleness to begin leading a life you love once you’re in a relationship, is denying yourself a beautiful life now.

• What do you want to achieve in this life, in the next 5 years, in the next year?

• What have you always wanted to do?

• Can you make that plan a reality now in your singleness?

Waiting in your singleness is not about watching other people’s lives and longing for theirs while wishing yours away. It’s about following your passions, living your purpose, and creating an epic life as your single self. Stop waiting in your singleness for a beautiful because you aren’t sitting on the bench, you’re already on the field playing the game of life.

“But you don’t get to start your purpose when you get married.” ~ Tim Tebow

You’re Already Playing the Game of Life

You aren’t sitting on the sideline bench – you’ve always been on the field. It’s time you played your best now. Don’t only engage with life when you have a partner.

Having a partner will make your game stronger because you’re already on the field and creating and preparing for this change in the game. You have a game plan, and game plans can be changed with each experience. When you know who you are as an individual and where you want to go – you won’t waste time with people who don’t want the same thing, and you’re also making clear that you have shared values for the people who do want the same thing.

“[Having a partner] So it does change the game a little bit, but its not like you're going from the sidelines onto the field. You’re already playing the game.” ~ Tim Tebow

Playing the Game of Life with a Partner

Playing the game of life with a partner still means you are playing your game, just now with extra support. Sharing life and your purpose with your partner makes the game sweeter. But none of this beautiful life needs starts when you have a partner or get married.

“When you get married, then you get to share your purpose with someone else.” ~ Tim Tebow

You Can Live a Beautiful Life Now

Live confidently now and continue creating your best life. Things don’t need to be rebuilt when you have a partner. And your partner doesn’t have to fit perfectly in. Small adjustments can make incredible differences. You’re already playing the game, so stop waiting in your singleness. You deserve to live a beautiful life now.

“Life happens wherever you are, whether you make it or not.” ~ Uncle Iroh, The Last Airbender

It's important to note that while society, cultures, fears, pressures, and external validation all contribute to the emphasis on having a partner, being single can also offer many advantages. It can provide opportunities for personal growth, self-discovery, independence, and the pursuit of individual goals and passions. The key is for you to find what works best for you and not succumb to societal pressures if being single aligns with your values and goals. Ultimately, the choice to be in a relationship or be single should be a personal one, based on individual preferences and needs. And the reason to live your life fully and purposefully should not be linked to a single or in a relationship status.

Spirited Earthling is more than just a blog – it's a gathering place for kindred spirits drawn by an interest in self-discovery, the appeal of self-care, and a desire for a deeper connection to the world. Written and created for curious minds and spiritual hearts seeking meaning in everyday life, this blog aims to help you curate your wholesome personal growth with free weekly ideas and affordable resources for sale.

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Thank you for being part of this community.

Best wishes, warmest regards

Jordan

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Affirmation: I am living my best life. My partner and I are connected, and we support each other.

Exercise: What have you been putting off because you don’t want to do it alone? Book that trip. Go to that restaurant. Enroll in that class.

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